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New Book on Marriage Without a License Coming Soon!

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Thank you all for your support of the original book! The online reviews and private notes received by email have been encouraging, as well as inspiring to me. To hear that ‘Marriage Without a License’ has touched your lives and provided answers to questions you were searching for just confirms for me that this message is needed and that God has selected me as another person to deliver it. I am humbled and grateful.

I also want to let you know that a sequel is in progress and will be released in the spring of 2018!

Why Another Book?

While the first book tackles the biblical differences between civil marriages and non-civil ones, I do understand that there are certain legal concerns that accompany marriage without a license. Real-life concerns about assets, inheritance, healthcare, banking and credit, and more all have to be addressed in order for married couples to live full and secure lives without a marriage license. There are solutions though, which is why I’m working on a new book to help guide you in addressing your family’s security.

Expert Opinions

I’m no estate planning expert, but I do know how to interview experts, ask questions and document suggestions and solutions for the benefit of others, which is precisely what you’ll find in this book. Where the first book answers the question of why marriage without a license? The sequel will offer a roadmap on how to DO marriage without a license! So if you have questions about things like:

  • The proper way to own real estate with your spouse even when the government doesn’t recognize your marriage
  • How to make medical decisions on your spouse’s behalf if she or he becomes incapacitated
  • How to properly structure a will for your family’s best benefit and interest
  • How to ensure a fair division of assets if your marriage falls apart
  • And much, much more!
  • … you’ll love what’s coming next!

    Not Just For Christians

    Please also note that while ‘Marriage Without a License: A Completely Moral Alternative to Civil Marriage’ was originally written for Christians, marrying without a license is of interest to people of all faiths and even those with no faith at all. Where the original book was filled with biblical discussions and scriptural receipts, this book will be a bit different in that regard. There are a few reasons for this:

  • The new book is meant to expand the discussion and to be inclusive of those who aren’t Christian, but who also desire to marry without the government’s approval or interference.
  • The sequel is also more technical in terms of discussing legal and financial matters.
  • And lastly, the original book was written specifically to shut the protests and judgments of Christians who do not understand marriage without a license down. Having already done so in the first book, it won’t be necessary to debate biblical matters in the sequel.
  • Marriage Without a License Questions/Concerns?

    They’re all welcome here!

    While this was just a short post to let you know what’s coming next, I also have a favor to ask of everyone reading this. I want to make sure a diverse selection of topics are covered in the book, so I’d like to hear from each of you. Please send your questions, concerns and challenges with regard to the legal rights and benefits associated with civil marriage via the contact form on this site. I’ll do my best to research the most important topics and make sure they’re covered in the book.

    Once again, thank you for your support of Marriage Without a Licence: A Completely Moral Alternative to Civil Marriage and please stay tuned for future announcements as the book progresses.

    What Makes Children Illegitimate Bastards?

    An unbalanced belief in civil marriage causes some children to be horribly branded as illegitimate bastards through no fault of their own. In Marriage Without a License, it is explained how civil marriage was created for a number of reasons largely beneficial to men. At one point in Roman history (which had great influence on the development of future societies), a woman who conceived a child without being legally married had no legal right to request support from the child’s father. Mothers in this position bore the stigmas of being nothing more than whores and their children nothing more than bastards. A man had no legal obligation to children born out out wedlock and these children were not entitled to receive an inheritance of real estate or anything else owned by a biological father.

    Baby Mamas and Bastards

    Since that time until now, many women still bear the branding of being “baby mamas”…a pejorative term often meant to deride or degrade a woman’s reputation. This branding also spills over onto children who are often labeled as illegitimate or bastards. While today’s children born to parents who are not legally wed do have the legal right to financial support and inheritance, the social stigma still prevails.

    I know grown people who were born to parents who weren’t legally wed and who still recall the hurt of being scorned and referred to as bastards. Some of these people vividly recall not being able to play with other children, being turned away by babysitters or being shunned by members of their own families because of their parents’ lack of a civil marriage. And this is not just with generations past, either. Not long ago, I was speaking with a friend about a young woman who had a child before she legally wed the child’s father. This friend was telling me how her own teenager wanted to visit the young woman and her newborn, but was not being allowed to because the infant was “born out of wedlock”.

    An Unbalanced Belief In Civil Marriage

    This is what an unbalanced belief in civil marriage does to our society and, more importantly, to innocent children. It teaches them that their value does not come from God, but is determined by society and, specifically, by a government’s validation. Prior to the creation of civil marriage, all children bore equal standing in society’s eyes and were not segregated according to what types of relationships their parents had.

    God Created Children, Man Created Bastards

    Do you think that God intended for children to be branded this way? Do you think that He intended for women to be shunned for having children outside of society’s legal concepts? Before you answer this question, ponder for a moment the Bible’s teaching that God’s only begotten Son was born to a woman who wasn’t yet married to her husband.

    I don’t believe that any woman or child should be assigned such negative labels or lower status in society simply due to the absence of a civil marriage license or contract at the time of a child’s birth. I believe that birth is a miraculous blessing; that mothers are to be celebrated as chosen vessels through which life is created and nurtured. I believe that men should place the women who birth their children on pedestals never to be disrespected and that fathers owe their children support and inheritance no matter the circumstances surrounding how these children came to be. I believe that all families should be proud of the children entrusted to them and should never feel ashamed about that child’s conception. I believe the negative labeling of innocent children (and their mothers) to be very UN-Christlike.

    Keeping Things Civil

    When I speak about an unbalanced belief in civil marriage, understand that I am not opposed to the existence of legal matrimony at all. Only that I am opposed to it being held up as the end-all-be-all of determining what makes a marriage or determining the value of a relationship or children born of a relationship. Civil marriage has its place in terms of taxation, the division of marital assets, a spouse’s legal right to make decisions on behalf of an incapacitated partner and so forth. In short, its place is entirely related to the governing of legal matters and I believe that partaking of it should be optional (so does our government, which is why couples are not required by law to marry). When we exceed legal matters and allow civil marriage to be the measurement by which we determine social and moral values, however, at what point will we wake up and say that we may have allowed an unbalanced understanding of civil marriage to go a little too far?

    Which Children Are Illegitimate Bastards?

    What’s your take on the whole issue of children who are born out of civil wedlock? Are they illegitimate in your eyes? How about mothers who have children without partaking in civil marriage? Do they have lower status in comparison to mothers who are legally wed? Have you ever questioned the labels assigned to women and children in these situations? What’s the label for a man who has a child with a woman he’s not legally married to? Beyond being called a “baby’s daddy”, is the social stigma just as bad for him as it is for a woman? Your thoughtful comments to all of these questions are welcome in the space below.

    Disclaimer: I do not know the children in the photo accompanying this post, nor do I know the status of their parents’ relationship at the time of their birth. The use of their picture is not, in any way, meant to disparage these children or their families. ALL CHILDREN, including the ones in this photo, are equally precious in my sight and, I believe, in the sight of God.